Walt, I am confused. There is no approved method to lap a valve with the head and valve still mounted. The lapping needs an abrasive grit to remove carbon or other deposits on the valve and valve seat face. Simply turning the valve repeatedly would perhaps do something but it also will lead to whatever does come off entering the engine in my view. Unless you can confirm you do not have excessive crankcase pressure then I don't see the value of just replacing seals on the intakes. They can be defeated if the pressures are too high.
I still believe your issue may be oil control rings for excessive oil burn. Generally oil seals are still near new at even TBO. The only exception to this is if the engine has had an overheat event where the seal can then become hard and perhaps even crack. It is however your experiment.
Cheers